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How To Communicate With Your Body
by Serge Kahili King

Communication is not giving orders or directions or criticisms. Communication is like a conversation, where "listening" is just as important as "speaking." You body communicates with you by sensations, emotions, memories (even of words) and habits. Sometimes it also uses intuition and dreams. You can consciously communicate with it by thoughts, words, imagery and conscious actions.

Here are some ideas for communicating more effectively.

1. First, you have to get to know your body. It's amazing how many people only know where their head and feet, arms and legs, stomach and groin, back and backside, fingers and toes are. You don't have to know the names of all your muscles and bones, but remembering that muscles are attached to bones is good, and knowing where your major internal organs are is also good.

In approximate terms, your brain is inside your skull, your heart is in the center of your chest surrounded by your lungs, your liver runs across your body below your ribcage, your stomach is on the left, under your liver, your kidneys are behind the liver on the right and behind the stomach on the left, and in the big area below your navel is the jumble of your intestines.The rest you can look up on your own.

2. Second, if you don't know how already, you have to learn to feel your body, because as long as you are alive as a human being your body is an extension of who and what you are. Feeling your body means to be aware of how your body is feeling, to be aware of areas that are feeling good or feeling bad or not feeling at all. A good practice is to start from the top down.

Let yourself be aware of your head first. Do any parts of it feel good, meaning relaxed or having a pleasurable sensation? That's your body telling you that those parts are okay. Do any parts feel bad, meaning uncomfortable, tight, or painful? That's your body telling you that those parts are under acute tension and need help soon. Do any parts seem to be without any feeling, meaning they seem to have no sensation or activity at all? That's your body telling you that those parts are under chronic lower level tension and could also use some help.

From this point you can keep going lower in your body, being aware of your neck and shoulders, arms and hands, upper torso front and back, lower torso front and back, hips and pelvis, legs and feet.

3. When you find an area of your body that is asking--or sometimes crying--for help, you have to do what you think is most appropriate, of course, but one thing you can do immediately is to give it some energized attention. To do this, inhale some fresh air, or some kind of pleasant aroma, and be aware of the part that needs help as you exhale, imagining that you are giving it good energy as you do so.

4. Communicating on your part can begin with pleasurable sensations. What is pleasurable may differ from person to person, but the basics are that your body experiences pleasure through sight, sound, taste, smell, touch and movement. You can provide these in whatever form you wish and at whatever time you wish, but you can also sit quietly and mentally ask your body to present its favorite memories of sight, sound, taste, smell and touch. Some people get surprising insights from this.

5. Just like you do, your body appreciates appreciation. Some people think this is crazy, but when you say "Thank you" to your body when it does something that pleases you, it will tend to do more and more things that please you. Direct compliments and praise produce even better effects.

6. There is nothing wrong with telling your body what you want it to do as if you were the boss. To be an effective boss, however, you need to let your body know why you want it to do what you tell it, and what the benefits will be for the body. You use the means of communication that I mentioned at the beginning, and you give benefits--or rewards if you like--in the form of one or more pleasures that the body likes.

7. If you are willing to engage in some advanced communication with your body you need to understand that you body is listening to your every thought, word and image, and reacts to each one in some way or anothers. And it uses the ones you dwell on most and have the strongest feelings about as inspiration for its behavior and the habits it creates.

Along with that is the little known fact that your body does not distinguish between outer events (your interactions with people and your environment) and inner events (memories, dreams and fantasies) in terms of whether one is more real than the other. As far as your body is concerned, they are equally real, but not equally important.

For your body, importance is determined by the amount of attention or emotional energy you give to each one. And, in these terms, the more important the event, the more influence it has on how your body acts and reacts.

So, an emotionally charged memory of something bad that happened to you as a teenager on a date can have a stronger influence on you than the actual behavior of a person in front of you who wants to get to know you better.

An outer event of learning a skill that you really enjoy, like surfing for instance, can have a greater effect on your performance than passing fantasies of falling off and getting hurt, but a strongly-felt fantasy of performing well at something you are just learning can have a greater effect on your skill than the critical words of an actual person whose opinion you don't care about.

The point is that your body's idea of what is real and important comes more from the energy content (read that as emotion, pleasure or excitement) than from where it originated.

And the point of all this is that you you have the potential to energize memories, dreams and fantasies to a level where your body will accept them as real and adopt them as guidelines for its behavior.

From my personal experience of using this to increase my health, wealth, happiness and success, I can say that for me it works best when I use inner events to reinforce outer events, and outer events to reinforce inner events. For both my body and me (whatever that is), reality is experience, and experience is reality.

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